January 15th, 2009
Dear Janet,
I heard what you said on the radio program. You said that you're quite popoular and you have a lot of friends, but they always make you cheat and help them during tests. I must say, your problem is an easy one. In my opinion, things are obvious and there should be no dilemma.
I think that if these "friends" of yours are only friends with you to get help in tests, they're not real friends. This is abuse, Janet. They are using your aspiration of being popular, your devotion and intelligence to get good marks, and eventually, that affects your own marks badly. They aren't worth it. Moreover, it is not loyal to cheat on a test. I suggest you rethink these friendships.
Anyhow, if you still think these people are real friends and that I'm wrong, I suggest you talk to them about that. Tell them you can't help them in tests anymore for the reasons I mentioned. Watch their reaction - if they choose not to be friends with you anymore, it is just an appropriate proof of what I've said.
I really hope things will work out for you – and for the best. You deserve peacefulness! Remember that friendships are not built on help in cheating, but fairness. Work it out.
I heard what you said on the radio program. You said that you're quite popoular and you have a lot of friends, but they always make you cheat and help them during tests. I must say, your problem is an easy one. In my opinion, things are obvious and there should be no dilemma.
I think that if these "friends" of yours are only friends with you to get help in tests, they're not real friends. This is abuse, Janet. They are using your aspiration of being popular, your devotion and intelligence to get good marks, and eventually, that affects your own marks badly. They aren't worth it. Moreover, it is not loyal to cheat on a test. I suggest you rethink these friendships.
Anyhow, if you still think these people are real friends and that I'm wrong, I suggest you talk to them about that. Tell them you can't help them in tests anymore for the reasons I mentioned. Watch their reaction - if they choose not to be friends with you anymore, it is just an appropriate proof of what I've said.
I really hope things will work out for you – and for the best. You deserve peacefulness! Remember that friendships are not built on help in cheating, but fairness. Work it out.
Yours,
Omer.
Omer.
Great advice, Omer, and very well put.You have a few grammatical errors, however, that I'd like you to correct. (95)
Daphna.
